Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

The problem is that men are from Mars, so they misunderstand this need and make mistakes: Venusians get a sense of relief from connecting in relationships, so they are more likely to meet to simply talk and understand each other. On Venus sharing and relating with others is highly valued. So let’s jump into the first stereotype! The book says… Give Women Understanding: Listen to understand her upset feelings, without trying to solve or explain them away He has over 35 years of experience in family and marriage counselling and has appeared on popular shows like Oprah and Dr. Men Are From Mars… sold over 15 million copies, which made him the bestselling relationship author of all time. John Gray (official site) is best known for writing this book. At the very least, I’d say the extraordinary popularity of this book proves that millions of men and women did connect with these particular stereotypes. John Gray’s response is that 90% of men and women do have the commonalities he describes, but 10% of people won’t be able to relate. “But isn’t this just about stereotypes that are sexist?” Looking at all the online reviews for this book, I can tell you that is THE major criticism of the book, especially by some younger readers. The title “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” is a visual metaphor for that core idea. Most importantly, we can work WITH our differences to build a relationship that works for everyone. When we expect our partner to be like us, that creates confusion, conflict and hurt.īut if we accept men and women have different primary needs, as if they dropped to Earth from different planet, then we can be more understanding and feel more love. Men and women have different primary needs that must be met to feel loved in a relationship. Why are modern relationships so often filled with friction and frustration, instead of harmony and agreement? John Gray says it’s because we’ve forgotten that men and women are different. That probably explains why Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus was THE bestselling non-fiction book of the 90’s! (According to Publisher Weekly.) There’s no doubt it had a MASSIVE impact on our culture. Otherwise being at home will make us want to pull our hair out! We all want to get along better with our partner.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray